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Here is some information about tantric anal sex
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Somewords about tantric anal sex techiques
Anal activities in sex are less talked about, and make many people feel more than a little uncomfortable. This is mainly because of the taboos about the butt, of course, and not because there's anything wrong with it, per se. However, anal techiques when practiced right, will give a great enhancment to the total sexual pleasure. In fact, there is a unique form of pleasure to be goined from anal stimulation, for a guy or a girl. This articles is about the tantric way of doing anal sex. By tantric sex, the aim is to achieve a higher and longer ecstacy that by ordinary daily sex. This is achieved by taking a good time and doing a gentle, gradual and stepwise stimulation in a relaxed mood.
The sexual feelings connected to the anus and its surroundings
For men some of these pleasant feelings originate form the prostate which is an important sensual organ that can only be reached in an easy way through the rectal wall. In a woman stimulation through the rectal wall can reach some sensual spots in the asjacent areas in the vaginal walls.
By penetrating deep into the anus, you will also be capable of stimulating your bladder from behind, especially in men, and your bladder is also a very senistive organ capable of producing very touching sexual feelings. In women the uterus can be stimulated from behind by rectal penetration, and the uterus is also a sexual organ that can even be the rizing place of orgasms.
But also the circular muscle around the anus, the rectal mucosa and the rectal wall itself have the capability to mediate joyfull feelings that add to all the other joys of sex, and the deeper part of the rectum has some extremely sensual areas that can give a sexual ecstasy of very profond type upon stimulation. Tis type of ecstacy penentare through all inner places of the body and also affects the mental state very profondly.
The greatest feelings in the anal and rectal region originate from gradual stimulation that is very gentle in the beginning and a long time. When the feelings are teesed up, one can get some new modes of feeling by harder streching and handling, but still in a slow and gradual way. These properties make the abal and rectal region perfect for tantric sex.
Psychological facts about anal and rectal sex
Anal sex is perhaps the most intimate form of sex, both in men and women. To allow anal sex to occur, a person must open himself up much more than by genital sex, but once open, it is possible to reach much further inside in the body of the lover by anal sex than by genital sex.
The procedure of opening up a person for anal penetration is perhaps one of the most exciting apscts of this form of sex for both parts in the act. First the person must be opened up mentally so he or she is prepared for anal penetration and gets into a state of mental and physical excitement combined with highly relaxed muscles in the anal region.
Then the legs must be spread in an appropriate fashion. The butt cheeks must be parted to get to the rear entrance. And then the opening must be prepared for penetration. The full penetration can be very deep and reach senible regions that are normally not touched in daily life that give rize to very profond psychological sensations upon stimulation.
The degree of intimiateness and openness necessary for anal sex, requires a greater degree of mutual trust than genital sex., but once achieved this trust makes the lovers bind to each other much more deeply than fairly simple genital sex.
Anal sex, and especially the deep kind of it also give rize to physical and psychological feelings than can remain many hours after the act is done.
Some physiological facts about the rectum and the anus
The skin and mucosa in the rectal opening is very elastic and so is the circular muscle around the anus. The rectal opening can further increase in elasticity by gradual use of steadily thicker objects during a long epriod, just alike any other muscular area can gain in flexinility with gradual stretching exercises. As long as one does not exagerate the streching, the rectal area becomes more healthy by this practice, exactly as other body areas gaing in fitness through regulkar stretching.
The inside lining in the rectal opening do not produce slime that lubricates. Therefore some lubricant is needed before penetration. The rectal walls. however, produce lubricating slime. The inside of the rectum is surprizingly clean some period after a bowel movement if the bowel is working properly. However, if one is afraid of getting durty, it is possible to flosh the rectum with a small amount of water before rectal sex.
First, it may be a difficult subject to bring up, if you and your lover haven't already discussed it. It's that taboo thing, again. There is a reasonable chance that they have already thought of it, and were afraid to bring it up themselves, but there's also a chance the idea would horrify them. Hopefully your relationship already involves open, relaxed, and frank discussion about sex, or else you probably should work on that long before you worry about testing the waters on this subject. Second, the anus really isn't meant to be entered. Don't get me wrong; humans aren't really meant to fly, either...I'm not saying it's bad, I'm just saying you have to bear these little facts in mind. One should be very gentle when experimenting with these things.
An important example is never...ever try it on your lover for the first time without them expecting it, especially if we're talking about penetration with a penis or similarly large object. Trust me on this, please. If you've ever had a really big, hard BM (Bowel Movement), that was really painful, that's nothing compared to being caught off-guard by this. Not only are there better ways to go about it, but you may never get the chance to try again, if they're upset enough. That's doom and gloomy enough, I think, now as for some more useful info.
For most anal sex, there are a few positions which make it easier to access the butt. These generally apply to analingus, actual anal sex, or even using fingers...though with fingers almost any sexual position might work, if both parties enjoy it. The most basic is for your lover to be on their back, legs spread and/or knees pulled up. Put a pillow or two under their butt...this is a big help that's easily overlooked. In one way this is the most awkward of the positions, but it can be the easiest for your lover.
Another is for your lover to be on elbows and knees, as for doggie style sex. This is easier for access, but it also tends to require your lover to tighten their butt muscles a bit. This may work better if your lover has some support under their chest/belly to lean on, so they can relax more, and possibly even so they can lean forward a little, extending their legs out and to the side behind them, which might put things at an easier angle for access. A third position is for them to be on their side. Their legs need to be in a scissors position, perhaps the upper one extended in front of them and the other straight "down" (as if they were standing), else the upper leg drawn up toward the chest or straight upward (bent, either way), and the lower leg in whatever position is comfortable.
A certain degree of cleanliness is important by anal sex, but different people differs accordning to the thorroughness of cleaning they prefere. If one has had a bowel movement lately, and in addition one has washed the anal region in a normal way, the inner and outer parts of this region is clean enough for the purpose of most people. A normal bowel movement actually makes the anus nearly totally clean inside.
If you also lubricate the rectal opening with vaseline or some oil based lubricant and lubricate the penis or condome with a water-based lubricant, the chance of getting soild by stool is very little.
If one prefere, it is also possible to take a little enema before anal sex. The enema must however be repeated a couple of times, because the first amount instilled into the anus will dissolve some bowel content higher up and make that float down towards the anal opening. Using a simple bulb with a syringe is ideal for this kind of enema.
With anal sex of any kind, lubrication is worth seriously considering, nd oil-based lubricants tend to work better, because of the fairly great pressure from the anal structures around the penis or object penentrating into the rectal cavity. Water-based lubricants tend to dry out and thereby giving a gluing effect because the anal structures do not steadily furnish new fluid in the same amount as the vagina. The rectal cavity do however make some lubrication to let the stool pass easily, and that lubrication will be of use also during sex.
The probably best lubricant for anal sex is vaseline, but cocoa butter and several thicker massage oils also do well. If you use massage oils, they should be neutral oils without added aromatic substances.
However, latex-based condomes will be destroyed by oily substances, and you should use a condome by anal sex if you are not absolutely sure that neither you or your partner do not engage in sex with other partners and are free from any disease that can be transmitted. If you do not have a condome that can resist oil, you must use water-based gels instead and use a good amount of it.
That's all for the basics...except that I will address the whole thing from the ground up, dedicating much more time to "how to get started" in this article than in the cunnilingus and fellatio articles. The reasons for this include the fact that this can be far more painful if done wrong, the fact that it's more taboo and thus worrisome to some people, and the fact that it's rarer...even thinking in detail about it is rarer...and thus more people are more likely to need to go over the basics. Oh, and the basics can be much more complicated, too. A penis in a mouth or a licking of a clitoris is a lot easier to get started in an "acceptable" way than a painless penetration of an anus.
The erotic scents and tastes of the anal region
The anal region has a stronger smell and taste than most other body parts. Our body hostile culture regard these smells and tastes as something durty and something to be ashamed of. The fact is however that most people find them strongly sexually arousing, as long as they are moderate. The smells and tstes of a properly cleaned anus originate mostly from the sebum escreted by the glands in the skin around the anus. These glands produce special pheromones with a strongly erousing smell and taste, and the purpose of these substances is to enhance the pleasure of sex.
By caressing your own or your partners anal region you get these exciting smells on your fingers. When you then caress other body parts, the pheromones are transmitted to these also so that they get a highly arousing scent. By kissing or licking the anal region of your lover, the pheromones will deposit into your mouth and nose and thereafter excite you a long time.
Male Prostate Stimulatios
Though many men are reluctant to admit it, most find some sort of anal stimulation to be erotically stimulating. Even non-gay men report that inserting a finger or butt plug into the anus during sex causes incredible, throbbing orgasms. To understand why, we must examine the role of the prostate in male orgasm. The prostate is the organ responsible for producing a good part of a man's ejaculate. Located inside the body, in the region between the anus and the base of the scrotum, the prostate is primarily accessable through the anus. Inserting a finger into a man's anus up to about the second knuckle (as you are facing him), then curling the finger slightly towards yourself will give you direct contact and stimulation of most men's prostate gland.
You'll find that as a man ejaculates, the entire area around the prostate, including the anus (especially if you have your finger in it), will throb noticeably. Stimulating this area even lightly during orgasm causes a man to have uncontrollable orgasmic spasms. Often, men will experience much longer periods of orgasm and will ejaculate with far greater intensity and volume.
This phenomenon caused the creation and popularity of the butt plug, a cone shaped plug that is inserted into a man's anus during sex and left in position until orgasm.
We'll start with this, because it's pretty simple. No worry about accidentally hurting anyone.
Work your way up to it -- as with any sex, it is often best to start out gradually, even away from errogenous zones completely. Remember how you used to fool around for hours before sex? It was pretty exciting, wasn't it. Anyway, even after you've gotten to the erogenous zones, you might consider performing cunnilingus/fellatio on them first. Simply work your way downward from there toward their anus, gradually. No matter what position you're using, your hands, or your partner's will probably be necessary to make access easier. You have far more control and better contact if their butt-cheeks (is there a technical name for that?) are spread away from their actual anus.
What exactly to do, tongue-at-anus, varies a lot from person to person.
Some prefer a light flicking, gently licking around the center, or gently pushing at it. Some prefer a deeper probing, with your tongue held rigid and pushed firmly inside. Another method is to widen your tongue to apply pressure over the entire outside area...this is often much more stimulating than you'd imagine. Another good idea is to try firmly licking, or even sucking on, the perrenium (the area between the anus and genitals. On a guy this is especially useful, because it indirectly stimulates both their balls and prostate.
The best method would be to combine all of these, and pay close attention to what your lover enjoys most. As in all sex, you would get them to believe in giving you a lot of feedback/signals, whether moaning, thrashing about, talking...whatever they are most comfortable with. They should increase or decrease this with their pleasure, so that you can learn what they like (it is different from person to person, this may be the most important secret of sex). If you're going to engage in this for a long time, especially if you won't be switching back and forth between analingus and fellatio/cunnilingus for texture, you probably will want to provide some stimulation to their genitals, as analingus is a pretty mild form of contact that probably won't bring them to orgasm, or even keep them heavily stimulated, all by itself. The Cunnilingus and Fellatio pages on this site have some advice on hand-stimulation, which is often a vital part of oral sex.
Of course using your hands for their genitals will leave you short-handed for keeping their cheeks spread, so this is where recruiting them to do either the spreading or the stimulation is pretty useful.
The range of things one can do with analingus is a bit more limited than with cunnilingus and fellatio...but one reason for that is that the fingers need a separate section. Many people won't really want to do a lot of probing with their fingers while licking. In fact, one might want to avoid using them even on the outside, because fingers are a lot stronger and firmer than a tongue, and so might make the licking part seem less obvious.
Finger Stimulation of the anus and rectum
As with analingus, the best way to start out, if you're going to be using your fingers, is to work up to it. This also is where techniques you use on men and women begin to differ significantly, so I'm going to have to start breaking up my advice a bit, near the end.
Fingers are, unlike a tongue, rough. This is true no matter how baby-smooth your hands are, or how well-manicured. It's more true, of course, if your hands are rough or not well manicured. Caring for them ahead of time with some hand-softening lotion and the careful removal of as much fingernail as comfortable is a good idea. Fingernails, in fact, are an important consideration. Even being well-smoothed may not be enough. Being a guitarist, I happen to keep my nails on my left hand trimmed all the way to the skin, and smoothed as much as possible. This is a big help, but even it may not always be enough, depending on the sensitivity of the partner.
Some people prefere to use rubber/latex gloves for the sake of cleanliness. This is probably a bad idea. They take away the sensitivity and make the experience cold. Many people are also allergic to latex, and this is another reason for avoiding these.
If you want to penetrate the anus, some lubricant is helpful. Water-based gel or massage oils made from natural ingredients can be used.Gently touching the anus is a good way to get started, once you're worked up to it. Because this area's not really messed with as much, it can be exciting to just be touched there.
The next step might be gently circling it with your finger. Consider whether you're using lubrication and/or gloves as to how lightly you do this.Even without penetrating, there is a difference in sensation between pushing right in the middle, and pushing/circling the area right around the center.
Actual penetration usually takes some tact. It's generally important that you work your way up very gradually. First gently stroke the region right around the opening, then push gently at the center but not actually penetrating. Then push somewhat harder, but still gently. At this point the anal spincter will often relax, so that the finger glides in. If not, press still harder until the finger goes in, but do it in a very controlled manner. Insert your finger gradually deeper. Moove your finger a little in and then a little out again many times, but more in than out each time. This kind of movement eases the penetration and makes a great stimulatation.The person being penetrated should also concentrate of being relaxed to ease the insertion.
Stimulation inside the anus of your male lower with your finger
The key to anal sex with a male is the prostate. If your lover is lying on his back, his prostate is on the "up" side of his rectum, several inches inside. It is stimulated by any attention to the region, though, including the perrenium (the area between his balls and anus).
You can gently push/massage the perrenium with your fingers, even if you're not penetrating his anus.
If you are penetrating it, though, follow the paragraph above on the subject, and once you're well inside, work your way gradually to the prostate (on the rectal wall on the side toward his genitals). Make this very gradual, as hitting suddenly can either be very uncomfortable, or cause him to suddenly have an orgasm, before you actually planned it (drawing out the time until an orgasm is a very powerful way to make sex more pleasurable, and orgasms amazingly stronger). Yes, sudden, strong stimulation of the prostate can, in some people, cause spontaneous orgasm...but remember that it may, instead, just be really uncomfortable. Some people do like it, though.
Stimulating the prostate for a while, until orgasm, also causes both a much different feeling orgasm, and (theoretically) more "watery" ejaculate (the prostate provides lubricant, whereas the gonads/balls provide the actual sperm). This may be of interest to someone who, for whatever reason, doesn't like the taste of a guy's ejaculate and hasn't mastered the trick of swallowing without tasting it(link). Performing fellatio when using your fingers to stimulate his prostate is a very good idea, by the way.
Stimulating your female lower inside her anus with your fingers
First, this is even more directly tied to oral sex...or at least the sex-specific section for doing it to a woman is. The best way to engage in anal finger-sex (well, I can't find an official name for it) is to be going down on her, and add the finger as a part of your techniques. First, be sure to follow the generic advice above, especially for penetration, and the cunnilingus advice (including finger techniques for the vagina) from the cunnilingus page.
One great way to start stimulating her anus is to make incidental contact with it, while you're stimulating her vagina with your finger(s). You simply allow a finger to, in the course of keeping it out of your way, stretch back past her anus, so that your pressing motions will happen to incidentally press lightly there, too. You might even work your way up to allowing a pinky to press (be sure there's a lot of natural or artificial lubrication against the opening itself, and perhaps even work its way inside, a millimeter every dozen strokes or less.
I'm definitely not advocating "tricking" her...this should be something you've discussed before, at least enough to know that she's not specifically against it if it feels nice. It is, though, a good way to demonstrate, without pressuring her for some specific act, how it can be stimulating for her when you at least touch the outside of her anus. Anyway, getting beyond the starting point, once everything's cleared for actual penetration, you work your way inside using exactly the same technique (assuming she or you are new to this)...have a different finger inside her vagina and make the main stimulation there, probably her g-spot, and let the anal penetration take a good, long time to actually progress. Lots of lubrication, and/or a latex surgical glove (surgical because this will interfere with sensation the least).
Once you're pretty well inside, concentrate (very gently) on stimulating the side nearest her vagina. A pressing movement against the upper side of the anal cavity is very helpful. In fact, you might not even do much sliding in and out, depending on how relaxed/excited (both at the same time, ideally) she is, and how well lubricated/gloved you are. You might take several sessions to get to the point of actually concentrating your effort on the anal part, keeping it a secondary form of stimulation at first. But that depends on how well she enjoys it and how much discomfort, if any (some people are just "naturals", I guess) she encounters. Remember, gradual is safer, because you can always build up but if you go too far (this is true of any kind of sex) it may be hard to recapture the mood or continue the experiment.
Once/if she's really into it, one neat trick is to press along the same wall from both sides -- both press toward the rectum from the vagina, and toward the vagina from the rectum. The wall between them is thin enough that you will easily be able to feel each finger from the other one.
Make an effort to not swap fingers, though. The anus can, theoretically (I believe it's not common) carry common intestinal parasites that you'd never notice, but which might not have reached the vagina. We're not talking about any real major VD/STD or anything, but something her gynecologist might notice and complain about, anyway. So assign one or two fingers to each opening, and keep them that way. In that case the "risk" is almost nil. That's it for sex-specific finger stuff, for now.
Actual anal penentration by the penis or a dildo
After being used to stimulation of the rectal opening and the anal inside by your fingers, the time is come to moove on and use your penis, a dildo or some other bigger objects insiode the anus of your lower. First, read all of the preliminary and finger stuff, because it all applies.
In fact, it is a very good idea to start out with fingers, even if your real goal is to use your penis or another similar device. This allows your lover to get used to the feeling, and to relaxing the anus in the right way. It is even a good idea to work your way up to more than one finger. Bear in mind, though, that fingers are a great deal rougher (no matter how you care for them) than a penis, so be careful. If more than one finger is uncomfortable, and you're not going to use a glove, then skip multiple fingers (and remind your lover that a penis is smoother, if they're now worried).
Before you can penetrate the anus with a bigger object, the anus must be lubricated, preferably with a water-based gel or some emulsion containing both water and oily components. This lubrication can be done with your fingers during the finger forepley at your lowers anus. Once you've worked your way up to the penis part, don't forget the importance of taking your time. You might even do some other things with it, first...coitus, for example, in the case of a female lover, or other contact between your penis and their genitals/thighs, in the case of either sex.
Stimulating your lover can be very important, especially to make the experience as pleasurable as possible for both parties. When working up to actual penetration, use your hands to stimulate your lover, probably taking a few things from the Advanced Cunnilingus/Fellatio Techniques pages, which both cover a lot of hand-techniques. Don't forget, though, to be very careful about penetration. Done wrong, this can be more painful than, well, just about anything...childbirth, getting kicked in the 'nads, whatever. Done correctly, it's not painful at all, and can be very pleasurable.
Be careful about hitting the hole. This is far more difficult to target than a vagina, if that's the experience you're going on. Enough light and a visual lining up is not that romantic, but is safest. This is also another reason to start out with finger penetration. There tends to be a slight softness, in some people, above or below the anus that can fool you, no matter the amount of care, into pushing at slightly the wrong angle or spot, so that neither of you realize it's wrong (yes, that's right, this mistake can be made even from inside your lover's body).
Don't miss my mention of angle, either. Because of the number of positions you might be using and the variety among individuals, I can't even begin to advise you on a specific angle as being the one to use...you need to figure this one out with a lot of care and observation. Just remember that most angles are the wrong one, so you need to make an effort to make it better than random. Prior experimentation with fingers, again, would settle this problem before it even started, especially when they are also applied before (or even during, if fingers are turning out to be enjoyable) penile penetration. A fingertip already inside a relaxed lover can be the perfect guide, actually making insertion of the penis easier and less painful, believe it or not.
If the position allows, and you're both comfortable with the idea, you may also have your lover help guide you in (bearing in mind that they may not be able to tell, perfectly, either), which is helpful because they know what hurts and what doesn't. But you should still be using your own hand as well, so you can feel what they're doing and when to do what yourself. Remember my admonishment about a millimeter at a time, for fingers? If not, go back and read it, because I'm skimming over things here that are vital, but which I covered in the finger section.
Go very slowly. The best method is probably to make a slight pumping motion, starting out just pushing slightly at the opening, not actually penetrating at all, and simply adding the tiniest, and I do mean tiny, bit of pressure each time. It should literally take you minutes to make any real progress.
A big factor, as with all of this, is your partner. The more they can relax, the better. This means both their mind, and their sphinctor/anus. The part about making what feels (but is not) a "push" like when you relax your anus to have a BM is a huge help. Again, not a real push, as one might do when constipated or in a hurry, just the relaxation of muscles which is actually what many people do when having a BM.
No amount of lubricant is too much, either, if there is any concern about pain. The big key in getting through this is the initial penetration of the bulge of the penis' head getting past the actual anus' sphinctor muscle. Once this is past, sliding in (if at the right angle) should be nearly painless. There are guys, though, whose penis is shaped in such a way that it still gets wider along the shaft, but for the average penis, which is about the same width all the way along except the head/glans, the difficult part is past once the head is inside.
Make sure the shaft was also lubricated, by the way, in case a "snag" from a dry area might cause discomfort. Once safely inside, and once you've found the right angle, and everything is going well (basic sexual pumping works fine, here, but you may need to start out slower (though that's a good idea with coitus, too) and gentler), it may be a good idea to shift angle just slightly, so that the head of your penis is pressed more against the inside where the anus is closest to the prostate (men) or vagina (women). If you don't know where that is, you should have read the finger segment. So there.
This will make things, perhaps in a subtle way but in a way that will accumulate in effect, more stimulating for your lover. As for you, this is about the tightest form of sex you're going to encounter, which many people find very stimulating. Of course if this is involving an artificial device instead of a penis, of course that doesn't apply.
It's worth note that the sphinctor is always slightly torn by this, according to doctors. This isn't necessarily a big deal, you get lesions (cuts/tears) inside your mouth every time you brush, too, and yet you get along just fine doing that three times a day for your whole life. If you're comfortable then I'd think it's not really damage worth notice...but that tearing is why anal sex probably the cause of more HIV/AIDS transmission than all other forms of transmission combined. So, even if you haven't bothered with a condom for other kinds of sexual behavior, the odds here go from hundreds of thousands to one against transmission (by other sexual means) down to hundreds to one against (by my analysis of the CDC/NIH data), and so you might consider using one if there's any question of someone not knowing they're already infected.
Once you've done the full penetration thing a few times with your lover, and the penetrat is getting to the point where relaxation is easy, and pain not really an issue (for some people it never is, or they like it, but it's necessary to have addressed the rest), you can consider trying more unusual positions and methods.
Like, for instance, the person being penetrated being on top. This is a very big mistake for a beginner, because one tightens one's butt muscles to hold them up when straddling a lover, but it is actually (once pain isn't a worry) a very nice position that people often don't think to try. If not for the butt-tightening, this would be a great first position, actually, because it gives the penetrated control over how fast things progress.
Another position, which is actually somewhat awkward but which some people find erotic, is standing up. If this simply means facing away and bending over a bit, the tightening of butt muscles is only a minor problem...but if it involves (yes, this even works with two guys) facing each other and having one leg, say, up on a table/counter, the tightening can become a real issue.
Don't forget the mutual stimulation. This (anal sex, not necessarily standing anal sex) can be the perfect way to try to time orgasms to happen simultaneously, and yet have the one doing the penetrating actually be doing the stimulating, too. Again I must refer you to (this page is already too long, without me repeating other pages) the cunnilingus and fellatio pages for hand techniques that work brilliantly for giving your lover orgasms of a power and timespan otherwise almost impossible.
A small percentage of men and women can achieve actual orgasm through exclusive anal stimulation (ie., anal stimulation alone). Though many men and women enjoy and take great pleasure in anal stimulation, it is most often in conjunction with normal sexual activities, the orgasm is simply heightened by anal sex. But there are a select few for whom the anal bell tolls and tolls alone. They can achieve orgasm from anal stimulation alone. In men, this is attributed to the proximity of the prostate and other ejaculate producing organs. In women, it is attributed to the closeness of vaginal and anal nerve endings, especially those that border on each other.
Most people find that anal sex is a tremendous tool to enhance their regular sex activities. In a majority of cases, the actual anal sex is used in conjunction with a variety of other sexual activities and positions.
Anal Activities on a Man
While performing oral sex on a man, try stimulating the perenium (the area between the base of the scrotum and the anus) first, as almost all men enjoy this. Work your way down to the anus and begin circling the outer rim of the anus. If all goes well, slowly insert your finger up to your first knuckle. Keep a close eye on your partner to make sure he's enjoying it. Proceed slowly. Depending on the man, you may only be able to get one knuckle deep before he's uncomfortable, or you may find that he enjoys an entire finger (or two - or three). During orgasm in a man, the perenium and the anus become highly charged orgasmic centers of pleasure. Each man is different, but if you locate his "sweet spot" down there, you can give him intense, lasting orgasms.
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