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Here is some information about tantric anal sex
techniques. We also have other articles about erotics and herbal medicine, and
in-depth description of the products. A complete list of
all articles is given here.
Somewords about tantric anal sex techiques
Anal activities in sex are less talked about, and make many people feel more
than a little uncomfortable. This is mainly because of the taboos about the
butt, of course, and not because there's anything wrong with it, per se. However,
anal techiques when practiced right, will give a great enhancment to the total
sexual pleasure. In fact, there is a unique form of pleasure to be goined from anal
stimulation, for a guy or a girl.
This articles is about the tantric way of doing anal sex. By tantric sex, the
aim is to achieve a higher and longer ecstacy that by ordinary daily sex. This
is achieved by taking a good time and doing a gentle, gradual and stepwise stimulation
in a relaxed mood.
The sexual feelings connected to the anus and its surroundings
For men some of these pleasant feelings originate form the prostate which is an
important sensual organ that can only be reached in an easy way through the
rectal wall. In a woman stimulation through the rectal wall can reach some
sensual spots in the asjacent areas in the vaginal walls.
By penetrating deep into the anus, you will
also be capable of stimulating your bladder from behind, especially in men, and your bladder is
also a very senistive organ capable of producing very touching sexual feelings.
In women the uterus can be stimulated from behind by rectal penetration, and the
uterus is also a sexual organ that can even be the rizing place of orgasms.
But also the circular muscle around the anus, the rectal mucosa and the rectal wall itself
have the capability to mediate
joyfull feelings that add to all the other joys of sex, and the deeper part of
the rectum has some extremely sensual areas that can give a sexual ecstasy of
very profond type upon stimulation. Tis type of ecstacy penentare through all
inner places of the body and also affects the mental state very profondly.
The greatest feelings in the anal and rectal region originate from gradual
stimulation that is very gentle in the beginning and a long time. When the
feelings are teesed up, one can get some new modes of feeling by harder
streching and handling, but still in a slow and gradual way. These properties
make the abal and rectal region perfect for tantric sex.
Psychological facts about anal and rectal sex
Anal sex is perhaps the most intimate form of sex, both in men and women. To
allow anal sex to occur, a person must open himself up much more than by genital
sex, but once open, it is possible to reach much further inside in the body of
the lover by anal sex than by genital sex.
The procedure of opening up a person for anal penetration is perhaps one of the
most exciting apscts of this form of sex for both parts in the act. First the
person must be opened up mentally so he or she is prepared for anal penetration
and gets into a state of mental and physical excitement combined with highly
relaxed muscles in the anal region.
Then the legs must be spread in an appropriate fashion. The butt cheeks must be
parted to get to the rear entrance. And then the opening must be prepared for
penetration. The full penetration can be very deep and reach senible regions
that are normally not touched in daily life that give rize to very profond
psychological sensations upon stimulation.
The degree of intimiateness and openness necessary for anal sex, requires a
greater degree of mutual trust than genital sex., but once achieved this trust
makes the lovers bind to each other much more deeply than fairly simple genital
sex.
Anal sex, and especially the deep kind of it also give rize to physical and
psychological feelings than can remain many hours after the act is done.
Some physiological facts about the rectum and the
anus
The skin and mucosa in the rectal opening is very elastic and so is the circular
muscle around the anus. The rectal opening can further increase in elasticity by
gradual use of steadily thicker objects during a long epriod, just alike any
other muscular area can gain in flexinility with gradual stretching exercises.
As long as one does not exagerate the streching, the rectal area becomes more
healthy by this practice, exactly as other body areas gaing in fitness through
regulkar stretching.
The inside lining in the rectal opening do not produce slime that lubricates.
Therefore some lubricant is needed before penetration. The rectal walls. however,
produce lubricating slime. The inside of the rectum is surprizingly clean some
period after a bowel movement if the bowel is working properly. However, if one
is afraid of getting durty, it is possible to flosh the rectum with a small
amount of water before rectal sex.
Be Sensitive
First, it may be a difficult subject to bring up, if you and your lover haven't
already discussed it. It's that taboo thing, again. There is a reasonable chance
that they have already thought of it, and were afraid to bring it up themselves,
but there's also a chance the idea would horrify them. Hopefully your
relationship already involves open, relaxed, and frank discussion about sex, or
else you probably should work on that long before you worry about testing the
waters on this subject. Second, the anus really isn't meant to be entered. Don't
get me wrong; humans aren't really meant to fly, either...I'm not saying it's
bad, I'm just saying you have to bear these little facts in mind. One should be
very gentle when experimenting with these things.
An important example is never...ever try it on your lover for the first time
without them expecting it, especially if we're talking about penetration with a
penis or similarly large object. Trust me on this, please. If you've ever had a
really big, hard BM (Bowel Movement), that was really painful, that's nothing
compared to being caught off-guard by this. Not only are there better ways to go
about it, but you may never get the chance to try again, if they're upset enough.
That's doom and gloomy enough, I think, now as for some more useful info.
Positions
For most anal sex, there are a few positions which make it easier to access the
butt. These generally apply to analingus, actual anal sex, or even using
fingers...though with fingers almost any sexual position might work, if both
parties enjoy it. The most basic is for your lover to be on their back, legs
spread and/or knees pulled up. Put a pillow or two under their butt...this is a
big help that's easily overlooked. In one way this is the most awkward of the
positions, but it can be the easiest for your lover.
Another is for your lover to be on elbows and knees, as for doggie style sex.
This is easier for access, but it also tends to require your lover to tighten
their butt muscles a bit. This may work better if your lover has some support
under their chest/belly to lean on, so they can relax more, and possibly even so
they can lean forward a little, extending their legs out and to the side behind
them, which might put things at an easier angle for access. A third position is
for them to be on their side. Their legs need to be in a scissors position,
perhaps the upper one extended in front of them and the other straight "down"
(as if they were standing), else the upper leg drawn up toward the chest or
straight upward (bent, either way), and the lower leg in whatever position is
comfortable.
Cleanliness
A certain degree of cleanliness is important by anal sex, but different people
differs accordning to the thorroughness of cleaning they prefere. If one has
had a bowel movement lately, and in addition one has washed the anal region in a
normal way, the inner and outer parts of this region is clean enough for the
purpose of most people. A normal bowel movement actually makes the anus nearly
totally clean inside.
If you also lubricate the rectal opening with vaseline or some oil based
lubricant and lubricate the penis or condome with a water-based lubricant, the
chance of getting soild by stool is very little.
If one prefere, it is also possible to take a little enema before anal sex. The
enema must however be repeated a couple of times, because the first amount
instilled into the anus will dissolve some bowel content higher up and make that
float down towards the anal opening. Using a simple bulb with a syringe is ideal
for this kind of enema.
Lubrication
With anal sex of any kind, lubrication is worth seriously considering, nd
oil-based lubricants tend to work better, because of the fairly great pressure
from the anal structures around the penis or object penentrating into the rectal
cavity. Water-based lubricants tend to dry out and thereby giving a gluing
effect because the anal structures do not steadily furnish new fluid in the same
amount as the vagina. The rectal cavity do however make some lubrication to let
the stool pass easily, and that lubrication will be of use also during sex.
The probably best lubricant for anal sex is vaseline, but cocoa butter and
several thicker massage oils also do well. If you use massage oils, they should
be neutral oils without added aromatic substances.
However, latex-based condomes will be destroyed by oily substances, and you
should use a condome by anal sex if you are not absolutely sure that neither you
or your partner do not engage in sex with other partners and are free from any
disease that can be transmitted. If you do not have a condome that can resist
oil, you must use water-based gels instead and use a good amount of it.
That's all for the basics...except that I will address the whole thing from the
ground up, dedicating much more time to "how to get started" in this article
than in the cunnilingus and fellatio articles. The reasons for this include the
fact that this can be far more painful if done wrong, the fact that it's more
taboo and thus worrisome to some people, and the fact that it's rarer...even
thinking in detail about it is rarer...and thus more people are more likely to
need to go over the basics. Oh, and the basics can be much more complicated, too.
A penis in a mouth or a licking of a clitoris is a lot easier to get started in
an "acceptable" way than a painless penetration of an anus.
The erotic scents and tastes of the anal region
The anal region has a stronger smell and taste than most other body parts. Our
body hostile culture regard these smells and tastes as something durty and
something to be ashamed of. The fact is however that most people find them
strongly sexually arousing, as long as they are moderate. The smells and tstes
of a properly cleaned anus originate mostly from the sebum escreted by the
glands in the skin around the anus. These glands produce special pheromones with
a strongly erousing smell and taste, and the purpose of these substances is to
enhance the pleasure of sex.
By caressing your own or your partners anal region you get these exciting smells
on your fingers. When you then caress other body parts, the pheromones are
transmitted to these also so that they get a highly arousing scent. By kissing
or licking the anal region of your lover, the pheromones will deposit into your
mouth and nose and thereafter excite you a long time.
Male Prostate Stimulatios
Though many men are reluctant to admit it, most find some sort of anal
stimulation to be erotically stimulating. Even non-gay men report that inserting
a finger or butt plug into the anus during sex causes incredible, throbbing
orgasms. To understand why, we must examine the role of the prostate in male
orgasm. The prostate is the organ responsible for producing a good part of a
man's ejaculate. Located inside the body, in the region between the anus and the
base of the scrotum, the prostate is primarily accessable through the anus.
Inserting a finger into a man's anus up to about the second knuckle (as you are
facing him), then curling the finger slightly towards yourself will give you
direct contact and stimulation of most men's prostate gland.
You'll find that as a man ejaculates, the entire area around the prostate,
including the anus (especially if you have your finger in it), will throb
noticeably. Stimulating this area even lightly during orgasm causes a man to
have uncontrollable orgasmic spasms. Often, men will experience much longer
periods of orgasm and will ejaculate with far greater intensity and volume.
This phenomenon caused the creation and popularity of the butt plug, a cone
shaped plug that is inserted into a man's anus during sex and left in position
until orgasm.
Analingus
We'll start with this, because it's pretty simple. No worry about accidentally
hurting anyone.
Work your way up to it -- as with any sex, it is often best to start out
gradually, even away from errogenous zones completely. Remember how you used to
fool around for hours before sex? It was pretty exciting, wasn't it. Anyway,
even after you've gotten to the erogenous zones, you might consider performing
cunnilingus/fellatio on them first. Simply work your way downward from there
toward their anus, gradually. No matter what position you're using, your hands,
or your partner's will probably be necessary to make access easier. You have far
more control and better contact if their butt-cheeks (is there a technical name
for that?) are spread away from their actual anus.
What exactly to do, tongue-at-anus, varies a lot from person to person.
Some prefer a light flicking, gently licking around the center, or gently
pushing at it. Some prefer a deeper probing, with your tongue held rigid and
pushed firmly inside. Another method is to widen your tongue to apply pressure
over the entire outside area...this is often much more stimulating than you'd
imagine. Another good idea is to try firmly licking, or even sucking on, the
perrenium (the area between the anus and genitals. On a guy this is especially
useful, because it indirectly stimulates both their balls and prostate.
The
best method would be to combine all of these, and pay close attention to what
your lover enjoys most. As in all sex, you would get them to believe in giving
you a lot of feedback/signals, whether moaning, thrashing about,
talking...whatever they are most comfortable with. They should increase or
decrease this with their pleasure, so that you can learn what they like (it is
different from person to person, this may be the most important secret of sex).
If you're going to engage in this for a long time, especially if you won't be
switching back and forth between analingus and fellatio/cunnilingus for texture,
you probably will want to provide some stimulation to their genitals, as
analingus is a pretty mild form of contact that probably won't bring them to
orgasm, or even keep them heavily stimulated, all by itself. The Cunnilingus and
Fellatio pages on this site have some advice on hand-stimulation, which is often
a vital part of oral sex.
Of course using your hands for their genitals will leave you short-handed for
keeping their cheeks spread, so this is where recruiting them to do either the
spreading or the stimulation is pretty useful.
The range of things one can do with analingus is a bit more limited than with
cunnilingus and fellatio...but one reason for that is that the fingers need a
separate section. Many people won't really want to do a lot of probing with
their fingers while licking. In fact, one might want to avoid using them even on
the outside, because fingers are a lot stronger and firmer than a tongue, and so
might make the licking part seem less obvious.
Finger Stimulation of the anus and rectum
As with analingus, the best way to start out, if you're going to be using your
fingers, is to work up to it. This also is where techniques you use on men and
women begin to differ significantly, so I'm going to have to start breaking up
my advice a bit, near the end.
Fingers are, unlike a tongue, rough. This is true no matter how baby-smooth your
hands are, or how well-manicured. It's more true, of course, if your hands are
rough or not well manicured. Caring for them ahead of time with some
hand-softening lotion and the careful removal of as much fingernail as
comfortable is a good idea. Fingernails, in fact, are an important consideration.
Even being well-smoothed may not be enough. Being a guitarist, I happen to keep
my nails on my left hand trimmed all the way to the skin, and smoothed as much
as possible. This is a big help, but even it may not always be enough, depending
on the sensitivity of the partner.
Some people prefere to use rubber/latex gloves for the sake of cleanliness. This
is probably a bad idea. They take away the sensitivity and make the experience
cold. Many people are also allergic to latex, and this is another reason for
avoiding these.
If you want to penetrate the anus, some lubricant is helpful. Water-based gel or
massage oils made from natural ingredients can be used.Gently touching the anus
is a good way to get started, once you're worked up to it. Because this area's
not really messed with as much, it can be exciting to just be touched there.
The next step might be gently circling it with your finger. Consider whether
you're using lubrication and/or gloves as to how lightly you do this.Even
without penetrating, there is a difference in sensation between pushing right in
the middle, and pushing/circling the area right around the center.
Actual penetration usually takes some tact. It's generally important that you
work your way up very gradually. First gently stroke the region right around
the opening, then push gently at the center but not actually penetrating. Then
push somewhat harder, but still gently. At this point the anal spincter will
often relax, so that the finger glides in. If not, press still harder until the
finger goes in, but do it in a very controlled manner. Insert your finger
gradually deeper. Moove your finger a little in and then a little out again many
times, but more in than out each time. This kind of movement eases the
penetration and makes a great stimulatation.The person being penetrated should
also concentrate of being relaxed to ease the insertion.
Stimulation inside the anus of your male lower
with your finger
The key to anal sex with a male is the prostate. If your lover is lying on his
back, his prostate is on the "up" side of his rectum, several inches inside. It
is stimulated by any attention to the region, though, including the perrenium (the
area between his balls and anus).
You can gently push/massage the perrenium with your fingers, even if you're not
penetrating his anus.
If you are penetrating it, though, follow the paragraph above on the subject,
and once you're well inside, work your way gradually to the prostate (on the
rectal wall on the side toward his genitals). Make this very gradual, as hitting
suddenly can either be very uncomfortable, or cause him to suddenly have an
orgasm, before you actually planned it (drawing out the time until an orgasm is
a very powerful way to make sex more pleasurable, and orgasms amazingly stronger).
Yes, sudden, strong stimulation of the prostate can, in some people, cause
spontaneous orgasm...but remember that it may, instead, just be really
uncomfortable. Some people do like it, though.
Stimulating the prostate for a while, until orgasm, also causes both a much
different feeling orgasm, and (theoretically) more "watery" ejaculate (the
prostate provides lubricant, whereas the gonads/balls provide the actual sperm).
This may be of interest to someone who, for whatever reason, doesn't like the
taste of a guy's ejaculate and hasn't mastered the trick of swallowing without
tasting it(link). Performing fellatio when using your fingers to stimulate his
prostate is a very good idea, by the way.
Stimulating your female lower inside her anus
with your fingers
First, this is even more directly tied to oral sex...or at least the
sex-specific section for doing it to a woman is. The best way to engage in anal
finger-sex (well, I can't find an official name for it) is to be going down on
her, and add the finger as a part of your techniques. First, be sure to follow
the generic advice above, especially for penetration, and the cunnilingus advice
(including finger techniques for the vagina) from the cunnilingus page.
One great way to start stimulating her anus is to make incidental contact with
it, while you're stimulating her vagina with your finger(s). You simply allow a
finger to, in the course of keeping it out of your way, stretch back past her
anus, so that your pressing motions will happen to incidentally press lightly
there, too. You might even work your way up to allowing a pinky to press (be
sure there's a lot of natural or artificial lubrication against the opening
itself, and perhaps even work its way inside, a millimeter every dozen strokes
or less.
I'm definitely not advocating "tricking" her...this should be something you've
discussed before, at least enough to know that she's not specifically against it
if it feels nice. It is, though, a good way to demonstrate, without pressuring
her for some specific act, how it can be stimulating for her when you at least
touch the outside of her anus. Anyway, getting beyond the starting point, once
everything's cleared for actual penetration, you work your way inside using
exactly the same technique (assuming she or you are new to this)...have a
different finger inside her vagina and make the main stimulation there, probably
her g-spot, and let the anal penetration take a good, long time to actually
progress. Lots of lubrication, and/or a latex surgical glove (surgical because
this will interfere with sensation the least).
Once you're pretty well inside, concentrate (very gently) on stimulating the
side nearest her vagina. A pressing movement against the upper side of the anal
cavity is very helpful. In fact, you might not even do much sliding in and out,
depending on how relaxed/excited (both at the same time, ideally) she is, and
how well lubricated/gloved you are. You might take several sessions to get to
the point of actually concentrating your effort on the anal part, keeping it a
secondary form of stimulation at first. But that depends on how well she enjoys
it and how much discomfort, if any (some people are just "naturals", I guess)
she encounters. Remember, gradual is safer, because you can always build up but
if you go too far (this is true of any kind of sex) it may be hard to recapture
the mood or continue the experiment.
Once/if she's really into it, one neat trick is to press along the same wall
from both sides -- both press toward the rectum from the vagina, and toward the
vagina from the rectum. The wall between them is thin enough that you will
easily be able to feel each finger from the other one.
Make an effort to not swap fingers, though. The anus can, theoretically (I
believe it's not common) carry common intestinal parasites that you'd never
notice, but which might not have reached the vagina. We're not talking about any
real major VD/STD or anything, but something her gynecologist might notice and
complain about, anyway. So assign one or two fingers to each opening, and keep
them that way. In that case the "risk" is almost nil. That's it for sex-specific
finger stuff, for now.
Actual anal penentration by the penis or a dildo
After being used to stimulation of the rectal opening and the anal inside by
your fingers, the time is come to moove on and use your penis, a dildo or some
other bigger objects insiode the anus of your lower. First, read all of the
preliminary and finger stuff, because it all applies.
In fact, it is a very good idea to start out with fingers, even if your real
goal is to use your penis or another similar device. This allows your lover to
get used to the feeling, and to relaxing the anus in the right way. It is even a
good idea to work your way up to more than one finger. Bear in mind, though,
that fingers are a great deal rougher (no matter how you care for them) than a
penis, so be careful. If more than one finger is uncomfortable, and you're not
going to use a glove, then skip multiple fingers (and remind your lover that a
penis is smoother, if they're now worried).
Before you can penetrate the anus with a bigger object, the anus must be
lubricated, preferably with a water-based gel or some emulsion containing both
water and oily components. This lubrication can be done with your fingers during
the finger forepley at your lowers anus. Once you've worked your way up to the
penis part, don't forget the importance of taking your time. You might even do
some other things with it, first...coitus, for example, in the case of a female
lover, or other contact between your penis and their genitals/thighs, in the
case of either sex.
Stimulating your lover can be very important, especially to make the experience
as pleasurable as possible for both parties. When working up to actual
penetration, use your hands to stimulate your lover, probably taking a few
things from the Advanced Cunnilingus/Fellatio Techniques pages, which both cover
a lot of hand-techniques. Don't forget, though, to be very careful about
penetration. Done wrong, this can be more painful than, well, just about
anything...childbirth, getting kicked in the 'nads, whatever. Done correctly,
it's not painful at all, and can be very pleasurable.
Be careful about hitting the hole. This is far more difficult to target than a
vagina, if that's the experience you're going on. Enough light and a visual
lining up is not that romantic, but is safest. This is also another reason to
start out with finger penetration. There tends to be a slight softness, in some
people, above or below the anus that can fool you, no matter the amount of care,
into pushing at slightly the wrong angle or spot, so that neither of you realize
it's wrong (yes, that's right, this mistake can be made even from inside your
lover's body).
Don't miss my mention of angle, either. Because of the number of positions you
might be using and the variety among individuals, I can't even begin to advise
you on a specific angle as being the one to use...you need to figure this one
out with a lot of care and observation. Just remember that most angles are the
wrong one, so you need to make an effort to make it better than random. Prior
experimentation with fingers, again, would settle this problem before it even
started, especially when they are also applied before (or even during, if
fingers are turning out to be enjoyable) penile penetration. A fingertip already
inside a relaxed lover can be the perfect guide, actually making insertion of
the penis easier and less painful, believe it or not.
If the position allows, and you're both comfortable with the idea, you may also
have your lover help guide you in (bearing in mind that they may not be able to
tell, perfectly, either), which is helpful because they know what hurts and what
doesn't. But you should still be using your own hand as well, so you can feel
what they're doing and when to do what yourself. Remember my admonishment about
a millimeter at a time, for fingers? If not, go back and read it, because I'm
skimming over things here that are vital, but which I covered in the finger
section.
Go very slowly. The best method is probably to make a slight pumping motion,
starting out just pushing slightly at the opening, not actually penetrating at
all, and simply adding the tiniest, and I do mean tiny, bit of pressure each
time. It should literally take you minutes to make any real progress.
A big factor, as with all of this, is your partner. The more they can relax, the
better. This means both their mind, and their sphinctor/anus. The part about
making what feels (but is not) a "push" like when you relax your anus to have a
BM is a huge help. Again, not a real push, as one might do when constipated or
in a hurry, just the relaxation of muscles which is actually what many people do
when having a BM.
No amount of lubricant is too much, either, if there is any concern about pain.
The big key in getting through this is the initial penetration of the bulge of
the penis' head getting past the actual anus' sphinctor muscle. Once this is
past, sliding in (if at the right angle) should be nearly painless. There are
guys, though, whose penis is shaped in such a way that it still gets wider along
the shaft, but for the average penis, which is about the same width all the way
along except the head/glans, the difficult part is past once the head is inside.
Make sure the shaft was also lubricated, by the way, in case a "snag" from a dry
area might cause discomfort. Once safely inside, and once you've found the right
angle, and everything is going well (basic sexual pumping works fine, here, but
you may need to start out slower (though that's a good idea with coitus, too)
and gentler), it may be a good idea to shift angle just slightly, so that the
head of your penis is pressed more against the inside where the anus is closest
to the prostate (men) or vagina (women). If you don't know where that is, you
should have read the finger segment. So there.
This will make things, perhaps in a subtle way but in a way that will accumulate
in effect, more stimulating for your lover. As for you, this is about the
tightest form of sex you're going to encounter, which many people find very
stimulating. Of course if this is involving an artificial device instead of a
penis, of course that doesn't apply.
It's worth note that the sphinctor is always slightly torn by this, according to
doctors. This isn't necessarily a big deal, you get lesions (cuts/tears) inside
your mouth every time you brush, too, and yet you get along just fine doing that
three times a day for your whole life. If you're comfortable then I'd think it's
not really damage worth notice...but that tearing is why anal sex probably the
cause of more HIV/AIDS transmission than all other forms of transmission
combined. So, even if you haven't bothered with a condom for other kinds of
sexual behavior, the odds here go from hundreds of thousands to one against
transmission (by other sexual means) down to hundreds to one against (by my
analysis of the CDC/NIH data), and so you might consider using one if there's
any question of someone not knowing they're already infected.
Once you've done the full penetration thing a few times with your lover, and the
penetrat is getting to the point where relaxation is easy, and pain not really
an issue (for some people it never is, or they like it, but it's necessary to
have addressed the rest), you can consider trying more unusual positions and
methods.
Like, for instance, the person being penetrated being on top. This is a very big
mistake for a beginner, because one tightens one's butt muscles to hold them up
when straddling a lover, but it is actually (once pain isn't a worry) a very
nice position that people often don't think to try. If not for the
butt-tightening, this would be a great first position, actually, because it
gives the penetrated control over how fast things progress.
Another position, which is actually somewhat awkward but which some people find
erotic, is standing up. If this simply means facing away and bending over a bit,
the tightening of butt muscles is only a minor problem...but if it involves (yes,
this even works with two guys) facing each other and having one leg, say, up on
a table/counter, the tightening can become a real issue.
Don't forget the mutual stimulation. This (anal sex, not necessarily standing
anal sex) can be the perfect way to try to time orgasms to happen simultaneously,
and yet have the one doing the penetrating actually be doing the stimulating,
too. Again I must refer you to (this page is already too long, without me
repeating other pages) the cunnilingus and fellatio pages for hand techniques
that work brilliantly for giving your lover orgasms of a power and timespan
otherwise almost impossible.
Anal Orgasm
A small percentage of men and women can achieve actual orgasm through exclusive
anal stimulation (ie., anal stimulation alone). Though many men and women enjoy
and take great pleasure in anal stimulation, it is most often in conjunction
with normal sexual activities, the orgasm is simply heightened by anal sex. But
there are a select few for whom the anal bell tolls and tolls alone. They can
achieve orgasm from anal stimulation alone. In men, this is attributed to the
proximity of the prostate and other ejaculate producing organs. In women, it is
attributed to the closeness of vaginal and anal nerve endings, especially those
that border on each other.
Combination Sex
Most people find that anal sex is a tremendous tool to enhance their regular sex
activities. In a majority of cases, the actual anal sex is used in conjunction
with a variety of other sexual activities and positions.
Anal Activities on a Man
While performing oral sex on a man, try stimulating the perenium (the area
between the base of the scrotum and the anus) first, as almost all men enjoy
this. Work your way down to the anus and begin circling the outer rim of the
anus. If all goes well, slowly insert your finger up to your first knuckle. Keep
a close eye on your partner to make sure he's enjoying it. Proceed slowly.
Depending on the man, you may only be able to get one knuckle deep before he's
uncomfortable, or you may find that he enjoys an entire finger (or two - or
three). During orgasm in a man, the perenium and the anus become highly charged
orgasmic centers of pleasure. Each man is different, but if you locate his "sweet
spot" down there, you can give him intense, lasting orgasms.
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A classical painting of anal sex
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